There’s a reason the Bride asks you to be her Bridesmaid. Don’t get us wrong – it is a huge honor and SO much fun, but it can be pricey and a big time commitment. If you’re confident go for it, but know it’s OK to say you can’t commit {there’s a nice way to do this of course!}. Here are a few things you’ll want to consider before jumping straight into a “YES!” and becoming a Bridesmaid.
{Photography: Maki Photography}
{Venue: Park Winters}
It’s time to think about the expenses. Be prepared to purchase a dress, potential hair and makeup, splitting the bachelorette party weekend festivities. This includes food for you and the Bride, themed outfits, hotel, flights, etc. Remember the Bride shouldn’t be paying for anything at the bachelorette. These festivities can add up quite quickly depending on the vision and dream wedding activities your Bride has for her day. Although this sounds like a lot of money, remember it is also grounds for making once in a lifetime memories with your Bestie – and that can easily be worth every penny!
{Photography: LUMI Photography}
{Design + Coordination: Events by Rebecca}
{Venue: Beatnik Studios}
{Hair: For the Love of Hairspray}
{Makeup: Miss Marissa Artistry}
Be sure to also account for physical time commitments of being a Bridesmaid. As part of the wedding party you should be present. That means attending the bridal shower, the bachelorette, possibly some element of invites/favors/decor, and at the wedding of course! If you can’t make one of these it is okay, but it’s important to show up for the Bride. Be prepared to be involved emotionally and to be enthusiastic about everything… {even if the Bride repeats herself or is indecisive}.
The time and events leading up to a wedding are both stressful and exciting. As a Bridesmaid it is your job to be there when the Bride needs to vent. Or when she needs to talk about her millionth idea for how she’s going to do her hair. Although it can be hard, try to be easy going when it comes to decision making. Whether figuring out hair and make-up slots or helping out with mini crisis – go with the flow and handle small issues that come up so the Bride doesn’t have to.
The bottom line is you know your friend. You know if bridal party shenanigans are going to be extravagant or more than you can commit to. If you feel like taking on the Bridesmaid role may too much, you need to have the conversation early and voice your concerns {rather than rain on their parade and their special time}. Just be honest and upfront with the Bride, she is your friend and she will understand.
{Photographer: Leah Galloway Photography}
{Venue: The Maples}
{Florals: Esmae Event Floral design}
We also have a few notes for the Brides out there – communication needs to go both ways. Please be realistic and conscientious about what you are asking your Bridesmaids to spend. It’s important to be honest and upfront with your vision, the costs, and commitments you are looking for from your bridal party. If you are gracious and understanding your gals will be too! With that being said – don’t be ridiculous, don’t have too high of expectations. Our advice is to go for a happy medium of your perfect dream situation for your shower, parties, bachelorette, bridesmaid dresses, etc.
If you ask one of your BFFs to be your Bridesmaid and they tell you they are worried about financially committing, please try to be understanding. They do not want to be a burden on your wedding festivities. Also, there will be some Bridesmaids that can’t make all of the bridal activities because of work or other reasons. Please be sensitive to this – it’s OK if they can make it to everything but your shower. The important thing is that they are there for you and are helping you as much as they can.
{Photographer: Leah Galloway Photography}
{Venue: The Maples}
{Florals: Esmae Event Floral design}
The relationship between a Bride and her Bridesmaids is so truly special. You get to take part in one of the biggest days of her life! If you are ready to take on the role of Bridesmaid and everything that entails, you are going to have a blast! We hope these tips and tricks gave you exactly what you needed to consider before becoming a Bridesmaid.
{Feature Photo: Photographer: Carmen Salazar Photography}
{Feature Photo Florals: Galeazi’s Floral Design}
{Feature Photo Venue: The Maples}
{Feature Photo Styling and Coordination: Events By Rebecca}
{Article Written With Love By Events By Rebecca Blogger: Monica Nelson}
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